The Certainty That Never Comes

I used to think that confident people just knew what they were doing. Like they had unlocked some secret execution playbook that I didn't know about.

If I am honest I feel like I spent way too much time trying to figure out how I could get to that place too.

Over obsessing about that "feel sure" feeling before I spoke up. Reviewing something over and over again until it just felt "right."

But the more I have been around people who I respect the more that idea has fallen apart. Because they don't always have the answer.

I have seen them change their mind mid sentence or say I don't know without it feeling like a weakness and still move forward anyway.

What I have realized is that it is not that they are more certain, if anything they are just more comfortable without it. That is because they ask better questions, they make a call with the information they have and are willing to adjust quickly when they learn something new.

I have been thinking about that a lot lately. How much time I have probably wasted waiting for a level of certainty that never actually comes.

And honestly how freeing it feels when you stop waiting for that and just trusting that you can handle whatever comes next.